Our safety system relies on the ability of players to set and respect boundaries, to say safe words, and to speak with the safety team if you are not ok. If you have trouble doing any of these, this larp is not for you.
CODE OF CONDUCT
- People are more important than the larp. Safety is our priority. Respect all the game security rules.
- Each person’s body is their own. They alone may set their boundaries and say what makes them comfortable. Please be clear in establishing your limits, both physical and emotional. Don’t be afraid to modify your limits if you wish to during the game.
- Consent must be freely given, vocalized and is considered inviolable. Respect everyone’s boundaries and don’t tease, gossip about, ostracize or retaliate against someone who has set a consent boundary. In fact, we would like you to thank your fellow co-players for setting boundaries, as practicing active consent negotiations allows everyone to feel more comfortable.
- Off-game harassment, abuse, or assault of any participant – or using the alibi of being in character to harass, abuse, or assault a player – are not tolerated. This includes any reference to the race, gender identity or presentation, sexuality, body size, conventional beauty, age, and experience of the player.
- Each participant is responsible for their own actions; for reading, understanding and abiding by the Code of Conduct; and for the consequences of their actions to others.
- Should anyone harm another member, whether intended to do so or not, the player must accept responsibility for their own behavior. If you are informed about this kind of situation, you are expected to reflect on your behavior and seek to change it. Don’t deflect, blame, or become defensive if you are informed that you have harmed someone.
- No one should ostracize or retaliate against any member for setting a consent boundary or for making a report of harassment or abuse.
- If you witness someone behaving in a manner that is against our Code of Conduct, we encourage you to ask them to stop. Please inform the Safety Team of the incident. You may report anonymously if you feel more comfortable doing so, and we will respect your privacy.
- Inform Not Only Larp team about any health problems or allergies we should take into consideration.
Emergency: “Emergency, stop playing.” Everyone should stop their scene. Follow the team’s instructions, as there is a real-life emergency
Players should announce their intentions to give the other player the chance to say a safe word:
– Green. When someone uses this, it means the rest of the players can raise their game intensity. It is a suggestion, not an order.
– Yellow. When someone uses this, the other players have to lower their game intensity. This is an order you have to follow.
– Red. The scene stops immediately. This is an order. The person who stopped the scene should ask what the other player needs.
Comments about the body of the players are prohibited. That means that everything else can happen.
This is an out-of-game space that works as a safety net for the players. If your play is having any negative impact on you, you can come here and eat, rebalance, relax, or sleep. You’ll find a radio to contact the safety team.
ARE YOU OK?
Gamemasters or other players can ask if a player is ok with this sign:
Are you ok?
They can reply:
"I am ok".
This hand signal, which means the player doesn’t quite know how they feel, or that it’s neither good or bad.. Please ask the player if they want to stop the scene.
"I am not ok".
Please bring the player to the safe space. If the player doesn’t answer, stop the scene.
NotOnlyLarp has a First Aid Team to deal with any health problems during the event. Please inform us about any health problems or allergies we should take into consideration and the way to deal with them should they arise. We also want to know any player who can volunteer to help our First Aid Team.
We have a first aid kit, but this does not include medication; everyone has to bring their own.
We do not have a psychologist on the team, but safety team members can speak with players in confidence..
NotOnlyLarp has a Safety Team to deal with any issue that can be considered a violation of the Code of Conduct or threaten attendee safety.
Feel free to raise any complaint to our Safety Team. Each complaint received will be evaluated on a case-by-case basis.
SAFETY TEAM MEMBERS
Esperanza Montero, Enrique Esturillo, Kai Simon Fredriksen.
Not Only Larp’s definition of harassment may not necessarily align with legal definitions of harassment. Therefore, attendees should consider the following guidelines as expectations of conduct in addition to legally actionable actions. In other words, the legal expectations of tangible proof are not necessary for the Safety Team to take action upon a complaint.
For our purposes, harassment includes:
- Verbal comments or displayed images that denigrate individuals based upon gender, gender identity/expression, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, age, religion, political beliefs, philosophies, geographic origin, or socioeconomic status;
- Body policing, including gender policing in all bathrooms;
- Non-consensual physical or emotional interactions;
- Non-consensual sexual acts.
- Unwelcome sexual attention, whether verbal or physical.
This harassment policy applies to both in-person and online activities. Participants asked to stop any harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately. Not Only Larp volunteers and committee members are also subject to the anti-harassment policy.
We will provide members of the Safety Team with detailed instructions and training procedures in case of a violation of code emergency. Attendees can report harassment at any time:
Before the event: If you are privy to information about harassment towards yourself or someone else by someone in the community at large, please email us at email@example.com. Please include as many details as you consider necessary. These messages will remain strictly confidential, known only to the safety team. Reports received about registered attendees before the event are subject to the same consequences as those received during the game.
Please note that if a harassment issue occurs, at least one of us will need to speak directly to the other person involved. We will keep any identifying information restricted to the safety team. It’s our policy because we know how misinformation can be spread accidentally when it goes between multiple people. We trust everyone here to be honest, but we will require firsthand information before we can take action as a general policy. Anyone in the safety team who personally knows the people involved in the incident won’t be able to make decisions about it.
During the event: If a violation of the Code of Conduct happens, please speak as soon as you consider necessary to a member of the Safety Team. You can reach them personally or through any other member of Not Only Larp Team. We will also provide phone numbers for on-staff Safety members at the start of the event in case of emergency. A radio in the off-game area can always reach the team.
After the event: You may choose to wait until after the event to report a violation. Please email firstname.lastname@example.org
Disciplinary Steps are organized into two levels based upon the severity of the violation.
Level 1: Monitoring the individual in question, pulling the individual aside to discuss the violation, and/or issuing verbal warnings.
Level 2: Removing the individual from the game and, potentially, from future Not Only Larp events.
This document is inspired by the safety documents from Conscience, Living Games Conference, New World Magischola, and Just a Little Lovin’.